I was really wrong about my divorce
I was really wrong about my divorce from the very beginning. Honestly, I was so naive, I thought “He doesn’t get along with me. We’re just not meant to be together. Let’s just each go our separate ways. He goes his way, I go my way. We each have our own individual lives.” I honestly naively thought that divorce was just about that. Little did I know from one ambush after another, after another, after another, after another, for years to come, that the divorce really wasn’t as easy as I thought it was going be. Why? Because I honestly didn’t even understand myself anymore. I didn’t understand who I’ve become. I didn’t understand what was going on. I was so uncertain. I thought I knew my reality. I thought I understood him. I thought I knew and could predict what was going to happen. I didn’t know what I didn’t know. It was only years later that I started to understand what divorce is really all about. And I started to understand that I need to know myself better. I need to know my boundaries. I need to know what I want, what I don’t want outside of the divorce. I had to understand myself better. I had to feel more empowered. I had to feel more assured. I needed to feel more supported. And that was one thing that was lacking for me from the very beginning. I always felt like I was alone, even though I was surrounded by my friends, and family, and everyone was giving me advice, I still felt alone. I still felt like people just don’t get me. They don’t understand me. They don’t understand the situation. Because whatever it is they were telling me in the outside world, is not what was happening in court and was not what was happening in real life. And I couldn’t understand why there was such a big discrepancy between the two- it makes no sense. It was only through many years of trial and error, and many years of going through the ups and downs of divorce, that I finally understood that I needed to become a stronger person. That I had become like this little animal hiding under a rock out of fear, out of frustration, out of overwhelm, out of worry, or that the worst case scenario was going to come. I literally lost myself. The confident, assured person that I was before was dwindled away to nothing for many years. And this is something that you also need to pay attention to - because it happens to everyone.
So I want to invite you to Divorce by Rose, it’s a Divorce Community APP that I specifically created, to help parents feel supported, guided and empowered. Because I am telling you, this is your ace card! This is the most important thing for you. If you don’t have that neutral support system, if you don’t have the right people giving you the right information and the right knowledge, you’re just going have to take many years of your life and many trials and errors, to understand what they would have told you from the beginning. So Divorce by Rose is a Community APP that brings together parents who have questions, and concerns, and worries, with coaches, experts and professionals, who have the tools, the strategies and the solutions for the parents. Please join us at Divorce by Rose. The link is listed below. We would love to see you. Don’t forget that you can remain anonymous when you join the APP. So when you join us, please use some fake & funny name. It could be “Bubbly Snowflake”. It could be “Tom Cruise”. It could be “Pamela Anderson.” You could be “Donald Duck”. Just whatever you want because the whole idea here is not that you’ll be recognized but that you’ll find the support and help that you need.
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