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Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. Let’s think outside of the box for a second here. And let’s look at divorce from a different perspective. Why? Because I want to help you make the decision: “Should I stay married or should I get divorced” from a logical standpoint. I want you to remove the emotions from the equation at the moment and just think logically so that you can make a PROPER decision of what you should do from this point forward. All right, so let’s look at your divorce like a puzzle and in order to see the picture of the puzzle when it’s formed, you need to actually look at every individual piece of the puzzle and put them all together. So, every piece of the puzzle represents a different part of your life. And every piece of the puzzle is different for each person. So just to give you an idea, one piece of the puzzle could represent your family life, one could represent your finances, one could be your health, one could be a role as a single parent, one c

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY Thinking about divorce? Is divorce always dreadful? Or could it be a golden opportunity? Do you feel you have LOST a part of yourself? Would you like to REIGNITE that part of you? You have a critical choice to make: you either focus on finding the treasure or, keeping the garbage. Will you get out of “yesterday”? Are you laser focused on your end goal- on what it is that you TRULY want in your life? …. Divorce is like the lost and found. If I say this to you, does it resonate with you? … I used to be somebody when I got married. I was a particular person. I liked doing certain things, I had certain hobbies, I had certain interests and I was a certain kind of character. Now, years later after being married, I’m a totally different person. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I don’t even recognize myself. I don’t even know who I am anymore….  If that is something that resonates with you, I need to tell you that you’re normal.. However cr

  Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. I share this same message every single day to women and mothers worldwide. And sometimes it’s hard to hear. At other times they’re really understanding the truth and validity behind what I’m saying. It is extremely, extremely important for women to become financially independent of the father or the spouse. And let me explain what I mean. If you are going to budget based on moneys that he is going to give you every month, whether that’s child support or alimony, I have to tell you that you’re going to fall into problems. And the reason is because jobs come and go. Money comes and goes. Games are played on a regular basis. And we’ve all heard all the kinds of games that are being played by people who choose not to pay the bills.  It is ESSENTIAL for women, in order to move on with their lives, to have their own budgeting, to have their own money. And that means that you have your base income, you have the money that’s coming in on a

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY I know you probably haven’t heard this term before. But when I read this in Brian Tracy’s Book, Maximum Achievement, I was jumping for joy because this is exactly what I’m teaching in the Divorce by Rose APP. This is exactly what I‘ve been saying all along in my coaching years and I want to read this to you because it makes so much sense that I want you to know about this. So, number 1 reason why people are really afraid of divorce is because they’ve heard so many horror stories from other people that they think that everyone has to turn out this way, that every situation has to be that way, that every one of their exes is going to become like that. So, they start off with a very “different” mental attitude that is really not conducive to having a peaceful divorce. So, I want to read this to you then I want to show you what you should be doing instead. It says: “The second major obstacle to change is a hardening of attitude. Psychoscl

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY Whether you like it or not, your possie will make you or break you. The people you surround yourself with from the moment you decide to get divorced, from the moment you’re thinking about getting divorced, the people that you’re talking to, the people you surround yourself with…. will help you to create your future. If you surround yourself with people who are in the “I hate my ex-club”: the people who will plant the worst thoughts in your mind and get you so scared and fill you up with these revengeful games and different ways of doing things to screw one another over and have those kinds of conversations, I guarantee to you you’re not going to have an easy next ten years of your life, you know why? Because you’re going to walk right into the game – the same game that they’re playing. And it’s going to cost you a lot of time and it’s going to cost you a lot of money and I guarantee you a lot of gray hairs also. So, the people you sur

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY You should be treating your divorce like a business, what does that mean? If you’re to go into a business meeting and you’re not happy with what your boss, and what your colleague does and the next project and all that, are you going to freak out and yell and scream and be hysterical and put all the whole big show? Likely not? Divorce is the same thing. When you’re going and talking to your soon to be ex, you do not want to be a bottle of emotions that just explodes when you meet the person. You need to have your emotions in check.  And I’m not saying that it’s easy in divorce- there is a whole lot of emotions. There is a whole lot of stuff going on but you have to detach yourself from your emotions when you’re talking to your soon to be ex.  You need to separate the two. You can have your emotions when you’re in private but when the two of you are together, it has to be logical conversations. So, you need to think that your divorce i

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY Little did I know that I was NOT prepared for my divorce whatsoever. I was so naive. I was so blinded. I was so clueless. I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I honestly thought at the beginning that the divorce is about: I don’t get along with you, you don’t get along with me, we shouldn’t be married, you go your way, I go my way and everybody goes their separate ways and the only thing we have in common are the kids. And all my thoughts were about child support and you know and money and financial situations, but also with assets and liabilities- the whole mixture of money and kids. Little did I know that divorce was a whole lot more than just that. And I learned through many, many trials and errors and many years of craziness and sagas that divorce is about four areas that you need to carefully analyze and carefully think about BEFORE you even make the decision to divorce. You need to carefully and logically methodically p

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. So many people ask me this question: What kind of coach do I need? Well, I always say: you need multiple coaches. They say “what … no… but I only have one issue…” And I say: you may have one issue today but you’re going to have many more coming. Why is that? Because as you’re going through the process of deciding whether or not to divorce, as you are going through the process of separation and as the motion starts to move, there are different factors that start to show up. First, there is going to be a thought about: I need help with myself, I’m not good with myself or I’m having issues. Then there is going to be issues with the children and then, you will have questions about your work or your career and then you’re going to have questions about finances. There are so many different areas of your life that have to be discussed, thought about and revamped that you are going to need the help of coaches from various industries that off

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY: One of the biggest problems with divorce is that men and dads are trying to divorce alone. They’re trying to figure it out on their own. Divorce is not something that you can just YouTube about and just figure it out on your own. It’s not something where the answer will just miraculously come to you. You have to surround yourself with a good support system. And that’s one of the advantages that mothers have is that we really are very good at communicating and talking and finding friends and people to listen to us and talk. One of the biggest issues is that men don’t necessarily have that. And they can’t find the person to talk to and they can’t find that person to reach out to and they don’t know who to talk to because they don’t want to be ashamed. They don’t want to feel unworthy. They don’t want to feel like failures. They don’t want anyone to know about their worries, fears and anxieties because it’s embarrassing. And I understan

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. Do you know how many times I’ve heard people saying to me “my divorce was so much worse than yours”  “mine was worse than his and hers and everyone else’s collectively” “because you know that my ex did” “you know what he did” “you know what she said” Well, bottom line is I have to tell you that every divorce is terrible. There’s probably a very tiny percentage and a very minor number of divorces that actually come out with telling beautiful stories and that’s because we just don’t know how to divorce. So I say we don’t know how to marry and we certainly don’t know how to divorce either, so bottom line is don’t compare your divorce stories. You know why? Because it’s not important because it’s not going to help you move forward with life. It’s not going to help you with your solutions and it’s not going to help you to move forward towards that post-divorce life that you’re dreaming of. If you want to listen to other people’s stories a

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY: How do you save your marriage? How do you ensure that your marriage stays healthy and strong? What can you do that will solidify the relationship and the bond that you have with your spouse, with your significant other? The divorce rate used to be at about 50% in North America before COVID. Now after COVID, there’s some talk that it’s about 70% across the board, across Canada, US. I mean, these are just numbers that are being thrown right now, and we’ll know the true statistics soon enough. One of the biggest common patterns that happen with many couples who get divorced is that there’s just this great discrepancy between the two of them. There’s this giant difference between their evolutions. There’s this enormous difference between where they’re at and what path they’re at. So, one is very far ahead and one stays far behind. So, if you want to make sure that you and your spouse, your significant other, are really solid and doing we

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY We don’t know unless you have a crystal ball and you’re able to predict the future, you won’t know. And if you think to yourself: I’m going to spend $5,000 or $10,000, and I’m going to stop, I can tell you that it’s probably not going to happen unless you adopt the right strategies from the very beginning. And what are those strategies? Well, if you’re going out into your divorce with this thought that “you’re right and the judge is going to do exactly what you think that they’re going to do and that you’re only going to go once to court and that’s it, it’s going to be over, it’s going to be done with”, I’ll tell you you’re wrong because once you go into court, one time, you’re opening up Pandora’s box and you just don’t know when you’re going to be coming OUT of that situation. So, what can you do instead? Well, you can learn to “respond” versus “react” to situations. What does that mean? Rather than like flaring up and being trigger

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY I was traumatized by my divorce for many, many, many years and I didn’t even know that I was traumatized. I honestly had no idea what was going on. The only thing I remember simply is that when I got separated, I honestly thought it was just, he goes his way, I go my way, we don’t fit well as a married couple so, let’s just go on with our lives. Little did I know that I was so naïve. Little did I know that I did not understand what was about to come my way.  I had no idea that my whole life was going to turn upside down. I had no idea that the stress would be so overwhelming that I ended up sick every single year for six years in a row. And I ended up in the hospital every single year for something else. It was just becoming like something subtle to think, more serious, more serious, more serious, more serious until a certain point it was the cancer scare that blew me away. And from that moment on, I said, oh my God, “Ravit, time to d

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. Most parents make the wrong mistake when it comes to step number one of getting divorced. They think that the first two people they need to hire from the get-go is a lawyer and a therapist. I have to disagree that those are the ONLY two professionals that you need to go to. Why? Because you’re going to fall into a whole load of unknowns. You’re walking into an unknown territory and I can tell you from personal experience that those are not the only two professionals that you need. There are many other professionals from various different industries who can help answer your questions better than a lawyer or a therapist. And I’m not saying a lawyer and a therapist is bad, nothing against them whatsoever. They do great jobs. But it may not be what you meet. It may not be the only solutions that you should be banking on. Why?  Because there are so many different angles to divorce. So, it’s like I say: “your divorce is like a puzzle”. So,

Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY There are so many people, parents especially who are getting divorced, who think they are “untouchable” thinking NOTHING is going to happen to them…. There’s no way these dramas and stories are going to happen to them…. There’s no way that these situations are going to happen because the X doesn’t have money. The X doesn’t have that power… The X doesn’t have the ability or the capacity to do that… The ex is a nice person- he or she would never do anything like that. And I’ll tell you something, if you think that you can PREDICT what your ex or soon to be ex is going to be like, you are DELUSIONAL. You cannot predict what your soon to be ex is going to turn into just as much as you cannot predict that they’re always going to say and do what they say they’re going to do. Things change, life changes, situations change, people come and go into their lives: new girlfriends, new boyfriends, new husbands, new wives, new circumstances arise.