Divorce enemy number 1: Psychosclerosis


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I know you probably haven’t heard this term before. But when I read this in Brian Tracy’s Book, Maximum Achievement, I was jumping for joy because this is exactly what I’m teaching in the Divorce by Rose APP. This is exactly what I‘ve been saying all along in my coaching years and I want to read this to you because it makes so much sense that I want you to know about this. So, number 1 reason why people are really afraid of divorce is because they’ve heard so many horror stories from other people that they think that everyone has to turn out this way, that every situation has to be that way, that every one of their exes is going to become like that. So, they start off with a very “different” mental attitude that is really not conducive to having a peaceful divorce. So, I want to read this to you then I want to show you what you should be doing instead. It says: “The second major obstacle to change is a hardening of attitude. Psychosclerosis is your natural tendency to fall in love with your own ideas and to vigorously defend them against anything new. The opposite of psychosclerosis is flexibility, the willingness to consider other points of views, other ideas with the very real possibility that you could be wrong. This mental flexibility is the mark of the superior person. The very act of considering all options in a particular situation, enables you to see much more of what is possible for you. Instead of using your intelligence to find fault with alternate approaches, you suspend judgement long enough to see if you can’t find something beneficial in a different idea or in a new way of doing things”. This is exactly what is going to make you or break you in your divorce. If you are fixated in a particular way of doing things and you are going towards the 3 phases of divorce: ego, power and money, you’re going to fall right into psychosclerosis. You are going to have the most hardening of attitudes. And you’re going to think with 100% certainty that you’re always going to be right, you’re always going to win, you’re always going to get what you want and the reality is that you’re not. You’re not always going to be the winner. It is impossible- it’s virtually impossible that way. So, if you want to divorce in a different way- what I call, divorcing the RIGHT way, your best bet is to surround yourself with people who can give you tools, strategies, suggestions, ideas and advice.  And this is what we are doing in Divorce by Rose. We are putting together parents who have questions, concerns and worries with the coaches, experts and professionals who have the answers, the tools, the wisdom and can help you move forward with your life.

The whole idea here is that all of our team- the Divorce by Rose team, we have the expertise, the personal and professional experience to help you move forward with your life. We’ve been there, done that and we’ve coached on it. If you join us at Divorce by Rose, you will be joining conversations, you will be learning new ways of doing things, new strategies that you’ve never thought of before and you know why? Because you’ve never been down this divorce road before so you don’t know what to expect. We have. We’ve been there, we’ve done that and now we’re here to pay it forward and share everything that we’ve learned with YOU.

Inspired by Ravit Rose: Divorce Coach & Mentor | Author of “Unwanted Nasty Divorces” | Founder of the Divorce by Rose Community App designed for parents who are either contemplating divorce or newly separated and wondering “Should I stay married or should I get divorced”?

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